I have just been dumped so suddenly by a guy who I thought everything was going well with. In fact he seemed more keen to see me all the time and we spent a lovely weekend just past in the country.
He said it was because there was no spark and that it wasnt quite there - which I am reading means : I was bad in bed. I thought our sex was good and getting better every time?! And I had no problem coming to a climax, although the last time we had sex he suddenly stopped because he didnt want to climax yet and asked me if I had already come - to which I replied yes because I had - his response to me was "well f**k you then", and with his tone I couldnt work out if he was joking or not.
I thought he would be happy that I did, clearly not!
The next day he dumped me, and I am very confused and very hurt. I'll get over it of course, but my confidence has taken a massive hit because it is not the first time I have been dumped out of the blue.
Just so you know, I am not a corpse in bed and I really do enjoy sex.
So confused, I'd be grateful for any answer you have.
It seems to me that the problem would lie with him.
"It wasn't quite there", is a cop out because he did not want to be truthful with you about what the real issue was.
A boyfriend that cannot be open and honest with you, is not one that I would want to have around. It's a good thing that you have found this out early on, and not waited years to discover this.
Many people have a hard time ending relationships, and being dumped out of the blue happens more than you would realize. Getting an excuse, instead of an honest answer is usually followed.
I would immerse yourself in some activities that you enjoy and put him out of mind.
Your life is much better without him!
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